Forget The Rules: Create Your Own Version Of Success

Have you ever really thought about what success truly means for you? Not what society tells us success should look like and not even what your friends and family consider to be success. Let’s define what success means to you, and then create your own version of success.

• Have you ever given this question some real thought?

• What does success truly mean to you?

I did a Google search and asked, What does a successful person look like. The images that came up were mostly men in suits. Hmm, Google needs an update.

Success to some people means owning expensive cars, an expensive luxury home, jewellery, and high-end holidays… For many, It’s being able to stay at home with the kids and whilst running a successful business during school hours. For other’s it’s packing the kids up and travelling the world. There are millions of different versions of success and your version is unique to you.

Define success on your own terms

I want you to take the time to define success on your own terms and then get to work and create your own version of success.

Create who life success

Too often, people focus on one area of life, such as building a successful business, but end up ruining relationships and being in poor health.

I encourage you to focus on every area of your life and ask, “If I were truly successful, what would this area of my life be like?”

Or “How would my life be different if I were already successful in all areas of my life?” Creating lasting success in all areas of your life is where true success lies.

Scripting to define your version of success

This exercise is in three parts, and it’s designed to give you real clarity about the kind of success you want.

1. Ask the question ‘What would my life be like if I were already super successful?”
   Script about it. This simply means write about it. Add as much detail as possible. This isn’t fixed, so add whatever comes to mind. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Who are you spending time with? How are you spending your time?
2. Leave it to sit for a day or so.
3. Re-read your script and highlight the things that matter the most to you, and also get rid of anything that doesn’t feel important.
4. Do a rewrite, adding as much detail as possible.

TIP: Allow flexibility wherever possible. If there’s something that really matters, be super clear and specific. If you’re open to how things manifest, focus on how you want to feel rather than a specific thing.

Here’s an example of what I mean. Meet my virtual clients, Suzie and Jane.

Suzie has multiple income streams and is open to others. She wants to earn a monthly income of £10,000. She’s open to where this income comes from as long as it feels positive to her and she enjoys the work. She thrives on variety.

Jane is super passionate about her blog and YouTube Channel; she wants the same income from these two income streams. Jane thrives the most when she is focused on specific tasks.

Create your version of success on your own terms.

Once you have real clarity about what you want – what success looks and feels like for you, creating a plan gets so much easier. Staying focused and motivated is easier.
When you know what you want, keep that vision in front of you daily. This will help you stop distractions from sabotaging your success.

Let’s look at our two virtual clients again. Suzie has multiple income streams and is open to how she manifests a monthly income of £10,000 as long as it feels positive and she enjoys the work. Suzie’s plan could look like this…

• I work 5 days a week – 7 hours a day doing things I love. During this time, I am completely focused on wealth building through my multiple income streams.
• I’m open to attracting amazing opportunities that I enjoy to increase my monthly income.
• I monitor my income streams regularly to focus my attention on the best-earning income streams.

Jane is super passionate about her blog and YouTube Channel, she wants the same income from these two income streams. This could be Jane’s action plan.

• I work 5 days a week, 7 hours a day. I focus all of this time on generating income through my blog and YouTube channel.
• I track what works and what doesn’t to consistently increase my monthly income.
• I stay focused and I don’t allow any new ventures to distract me from my blog and YouTube success goal.

These examples are business-focused, but you can use the same process to gain real clarity and focus on all different areas of your life.

Review your success script daily and create focus action steps

If your script is long, try creating bullet points for the key things that are important to you as you create your version of success.

Keep these where you can see then daily. Make them your priority areas of focus and action. Here’s a great question to ask daily. What action do I need to take today to create my version of success? Take the action.

Use these mindset tools to help with manifesting success

• Use positive affirmations to support you – Positive present tense messages as if you already have what you want. Instead of “I want to be successful” say “I am successful”
• Practice using EFT Tapping – Emotional Freedom Techniques to help release limiting beliefs and raise your vibrations so that you’re aligned with success
• Visualise your version of success. Keep putting yourself into the picture until it becomes your reality

Let’s do a success recap

• Define your version of success through scripting
• Create a plan to achieve it
• Review your script daily and create your daily action plan
• Align yourself with your version of success with affirmations, EFT Tapping and Visualizing

Useful further reading: 19 Powerful Affirmations for a Success Mindset and Quick & Easy EFT Tapping Guide

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Business Name: Wendy Tomlinson Coaching
Mindset Coach – EFT Master Practitioner – Law of Attraction Practitioner