Why can’t I get the law of attraction to work for me?

The most asked law of attraction questions that I receive is “Why can’t I get the law of attraction to work for me?”

The answer could be different for each person but there are generally a few things to look at if you’re asking this question.

If you can’t get the law of attraction working effectively for you it’s usually because of one of these things…

• You’ve got limiting beliefs blocking what you want
• You’re not clear about what you want
• Your vibrations are low
• You’re not consistent about what you want (mixed messages)

One thing that I do want to say before jumping into these reasons is that I want you to think of the law of attraction as a helping hand rather than a magic wand.

It’s certainly a powerful tool for you to have in your life tool bag but it’s definitely not one of those things that when you know about it, you suddenly manifest everything your heart desires. At least that’s not how it works for the vast majority of people.

So let’s take a look at why you can’t get the law of attraction to work for you.

I encourage you to read How to use the law of attraction effectively in your own life, especially if you are new to the blog and my style of law of attraction teaching.

I like to keep things clear and simple. Many people fall into the trap of over-complicating the law of attraction and it’s not necessary.

How long have you been alive?

How much of your life had you already lived before you heard about the law of attraction and started trying to get it to work in your own life?

The vast majority of people are well into their adult life before they even hear about the law of attraction.

Most people live their lives in a default setting, unaware that they have any power to create a new reality for themselves DELIBERATELY.

The law of attraction responds to your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, the things you say and the things you do.

Just because you now know about the law of attraction, you’ve got a lifetime of a certain way of living and that way of living may not currently allow you to manifest the things you want. For most people, it will be a gradual change.

And most people who get to the stage of asking “Why can’t I get the law of attraction to work for me?” tend to stop trying or they fill their mind with thoughts that don’t support them.

I’d love you to read this post – Law of attraction and how to use this power effectively.

Law of attraction and limiting beliefs

Your beliefs are HUGE when it comes to the law of attraction – Let’s say that you want to be successful in business but your beliefs are, people like me just don’t do really well in business, or I’m just not smart enough to be really successful…

This kind of limiting belief will block you from achieving the success you want and even if you do manage a good level of success, you will always be afraid that you will lose it. So, you need to work on shifting/releasing those limiting beliefs.

As we go through our life, we pick up all kinds of beliefs along the way. Some beliefs support us but some beliefs will block us.

Also, some beliefs may have been appropriate when we were 5, for example, it’s not safe to talk to strangers, but that belief will not serve you if you need to connect with people to build your business.

Take some time to really think about the things you want and then think about what your beliefs are.

How a limiting belief can block you

One of my big, really big limiting beliefs used to be… People who are rich are unhappy, they look down on other people and treat people badly.

My logical mind knew this was not true of all rich people or even most rich people. I know some very lovely, very happy, generous and kind rich people, but this belief came from my childhood and had stuck with me.

It was very deep-rooted. The reality was that I was building a business and trying to become a rich person but my beliefs in this area caused me huge blocks.

Whilst I’ve done lots of mindset work on this area, it still jumps up to mess with my emotions every now and then and I need to do some more work in this area.

Most people who say “Why can’t I get the law of attraction to work for me?” haven’t done any kind of work on their beliefs or very little. I’ve found that this is something that needs consistent work over time.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is, in my opinion, the best way to release these kinds of blocks. Check out my EFT posts here on the blog.

Clarity Issues stop you from manifesting things you want

It may be that you haven’t spent time getting clear about what you want. There are 3 clear steps with the law of attraction.

1. CLARITY
2. RAISING YOUR VIBRATIONS
3. ALLOWING

Getting clear about what it is that you actually want to attract is like sending a clear order to the universe about what you want to show up in your life.

Imagine if you went into a restaurant and said to the waiter, I’m not sure what I want, just bring me anything.

It’s really potluck whether you’d like what the waiter gave you. That wouldn’t be the waiter’s fault, it would be yours because you weren’t clear about what you wanted.

Sometimes people don’t know exactly what they want, but what you can do is focus on the things you already have in your life that you do like. And on the way that you want to FEEL.

I actually ALWAYS encourage this anyway, and when something shows up that you don’t want/don’t like, ask this question – If I don’t want this, what do I want? When it’s something you do like, say “YES! more of this please!”

Consistency is great for law of attraction success

Be consistent in your attraction efforts. Keep your focus on the things you like/love about your life and the things you want to attract into your life.

Now, this is a problem that I personally have. I change what I want on a daily basis, sometimes more regularly than that.

Again, let’s imagine your putting an order in with a company that delivers furniture. You phone them up and order a nice pine desk.

The company starts to process the order but then, you phone back and say, I’ve changed my mind, I want the bookcase instead. So they cancel the first order and get to work on processing the order for the bookcase.

Then you phone and say I’ve changed my mind again, I do want the desk now and not the bookcase.

It all get’s super confusing and during this time you don’t have anything show up that you want. It works very much the same with the law of attraction.

I encourage you to take some time at this stage to get clear about what you do want and every day to notice the things you do like in your life and keep asking “If I don’t want this, what do I want?” when you notice something you don’t like. And when something shows up that you like “YES! More of this please!”

Low vibrations block you from manifesting what you want

Your vibrations are very much connected to your emotions. If you feel positive then your vibrations are high and if you feel negative then your emotions are low.

To raise your vibrations so that you are a match for what you want, keep aiming for A BETTER FEELING.

• Do things you enjoy
• Use affirmations
• Do EFT to release low-vibrating emotions and to raise your vibrations
• Exercise
• Spend time with friends who uplift you…

Law of attraction block – You’re not a match (at the moment)

Check-in with yourself. You are a match now for whatever is currently showing up in your life – Now, there are exceptions to this, but as a general rule, this is a good way to look at it.

Try this…

• My current reality is this…
• What I want to attract into my life is…
• How can I be more of a match for attracting that?

Being a match for what you want

Example – Jenn’s current reality is that she is not making enough money in her business to quit her full-time job.

She wants to attract more money each month so that she can quit her job. When she asks, how can I be more of a match to attract this? 3 things come up for her…

• Jenn is not fully committed to building her business when she is not working and often lets other things take over so that she goes a full week without doing a single thing to build the business she wants.
• She realizes that she has a limiting belief that is holding her back – She believes that she’d be risking her long-term security if she gave up her job.
• She also believes that because she left school with hardly any qualifications, she’s not really clever enough to manage her own business.

To be more of a match for her dream business, Jenn needs to make a real commitment to the business.

If she dedicated even 30 minutes every day to her business, then that would be a clear message that this is something she really wants to happen.

She also needs to work on those limiting beliefs. So, she could start doing EFT and regularly use affirmations that support her such as…

• I am more than capable of being successful running my own business
• I’m clever enough to run a successful business
• I am building a secure future for myself and my family

Jenn can also do practical things to secure her future. For example, she can start to build a 6 month to one-year living fund for when she quits her job.

She can also seek advice about investing for the future, and look into any grants that are available…

Let’s do a recap – Why can’t I get the law of attraction to work for me?

So, if you’re someone who asks “Why can’t I get the law of attraction to work for me? here are some steps you can take today.

• Get clear about what you want to attract
• Raise your vibrations
• Clear limiting beliefs
• Be consistent
• Work on being a match for what you want

Please ask if you have any questions, I’m always happy to help.

Wendy Tomlinson

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