Can I use the law of attraction to help someone else?

The answer to the question… Can I use the law of attraction to help someone else? is not a clear YES or NO.

There are definitely times when you can use the law of atraction to help other people and there are clear reasons why sometimes this doesn’t work.

You can use the law of attraction to help someone else as long as they are open to receiving this help.

However, the other person may block what you are trying to manifest for them even if unintentionally. The law of attraction can only match the individual person’s vibrations.

In this post, I’m going to explain why sometimes it is possible to help someone else using the law of attraction and sometimes it’s not.

I’m going to talk about…

• Law of attraction and free will
• Is the person open to what you want to manifest for them?
• How people block the law of attraction
• And I have some words of warning

I’m also going to share some law of attraction exercises that you can use to help other people.

Law of attraction and free will

FREE WILL is massive when it comes to the law of attraction. Every single person has free will and this is why one person cannot always manifest things for other people.

YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT MANIFEST SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE IF IT IS AGAINST THEIR FREE WILL.

I’m going to give you a few examples to try and help you understand this.

• John wants something for James. James wants the same. John has a good understanding of the law of attraction and can help manifest the thing he wants for James
• Jessica wants her friend Julie to buy a house on the same street as her. Julie hates that street and she really wants to buy a house the other side of town. Jessica and Julie have very different desires. Julie is not a match for allowing Jessica’s manifesting help
• Jessica wants her friend Julie to buy a house on the same street as her. Julie is totally open to where she buys a house, so Jessica is totally able to help her friend find the perfect house on the street she lives on.

Now let’s imagine that not everyone had free will. This is what it would look like.

In a village of 100 people, HENRY knows how to use the law of attraction. HENRY wants everyone to drive red cars and dye their hair blue. The rest of the village has no free will so they do what Henry wants.

In reality, very few people, if any would go out and buy a red car and dye their hair blue if one person in the village tried to manifest it. Why? Because everyone has free will.

And this is exactly why we can’t always help other people using the law of attraction.

Is the person open to what you want to manifest for them?

I’ve kind of already talked about this in regards to free will but I want to just go over it in a slightly different way to help you understand.

There are 3 steps to the law of attraction process

1. CLARITY – Get clear about what you want
2. RAISE YOUR VIBRATIONS – The easiest way to explain this is to feel really positive about what you want
3. ALLOW – Make sure that you’re not blocking what you want in any way

Now, when you’re trying to manifest something for someone else, they must be able to allow it. They must not have blocks to what you want for them.

Here’s a really simple example…

Jessica is trying to manifest top grades for her son. Her son hates school and finds it a complete waste of his time. Instead, he’s focusing his attention on building his YouTube Channel which he believes he can make a great income from. The son is not open to his mum’s manifestation for him.

Amy wants to manifest a new job for her friend, Jane, who is looking for a job. Jane has a very negative view of herself. She doesn’t believe that she is worth employing and she believes she’ll be stuck in a job she hates for the rest of her working life. Jane is not open to allowing a new job. She has a big block that could really block any new job showing up.

How people block the law of attraction

People block the law of attraction from giving them what they want by…

• Having negative/limiting beliefs
• Having low energy/low vibrations

So, when you’re trying to help someone else, their beliefs must not be so strong that they block what you want to manifest for them.

The person’s energy simply may be so low that they are not able to allow in the manifestation even if it’s what they want.

! ! Words of warning ! !

Before I give you some really powerful law of attraction exercises, I want to give you some gentle words of warning.

Sometimes what you think is the best for someone maybe isn’t. When I look at my own life, I’m am positive that some people in my life would want a very different life for me that I certainly don’t want.

I encourage you to focus on using the law of attraction for the best for that person – You create positive energy when you focus on that person and leave the rest up to the Universe rather than asking for a specific thing.

NEVER take away power from anyone

This was a difficult lesson for me to learn. My instincts are to try and fix things. For example, if my son has a problem, I instantly go into ‘Fix it’ mode and this really isn’t helpful.

What this actually does is take away power from that person. Instead, do these things…

1. Read this blog post – Does the law of attraction work for everyone? – The answer is YES, the post will help you to understand this more as it’s not always obvious
2. Put your focus on them being able to manifest what they want for themselves
3. Think of your own manifesting work as adding positive energy to the situation
4. Let the person see you successfully using the law of attraction in your own life

Law of attraction exercises to help someone else

Now, I’ve covered the ways you can’t use the law of attraction to help others, let’s look at some things you can do to help someone else using the law of attraction.

Raise your own vibes (MOST IMPORTANT)

The very best way for you to help anyone else is by raising your own vibrations – Feeling really positive.

Often when we want to help someone, we worry about them and focus on the problem. This will only serve to add more energy to the thing that is not wanted. These are low vibrations.

When you work on raising your own vibrations, feeling positive when you think of the person you want to help, you will be adding positive energy and this is powerful.

Sometimes you feel like this isn’t enough and you want to take more action but most of the time simply raising your own vibration is the absolute best thing to do.

I really encourage you to read 30 Ways to Raise Your Vibrations

Positive messages

I want you to think about your thoughts and the things you actually say. When you think about the person you want to help, focus on the positives.

When you speak to the person or about the person, make sure that you keep things positive.

You can use affirmations to help keep your thoughts positive, such as…

• My friend is well
• My friend is strong
• My friend is healthy
• My friend is totally capable of making the best of this situation
• My friend can sort this out
• My friend is so resourceful…

A great question to ask is… If I don’t want this for my friend, what do I want?

Example…

• I don’t want my friend to be ill
• If I don’t want this, what do I want?
• I want my friend to be well
• AFFIRMATIONS: My friend is well, My friend is healing, I send positive energy to my friend

Now, I’m not saying that by doing this, you will make your friend well but you will be adding positive energy which is helpful.

If you were to think. My friend is so poorly, I hate my friend being so ill, I wish she wasn’t ill… will add low energy.

Whilst these thoughts are so natural, they will only serve to add low energy to the situation. So, if you catch yourself with unhelpful, low energy thoughts, swap them for something better feeling.

The very best affirmation, in my opinion, that you can use for someone else is… I expect the Universe to deliver the very best outcome for this person.

EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques

I have two ways to use EFT to help someone else, the first way is to release your own blocks, limiting beliefs and the second is surrogate tapping for the other person.

EFT – How To Tap

If you’re new to EFT, I’ve written a full EFT – HOW TO TAP GUIDE right here on the blog.

Tapping the side of the hand, say a set-up statement about why you’re tapping.

Tap gently on the following Meridian Points – Top of the head, forehead, eyebrow, side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, under the mouth, collarbone, under the arm, side of the hand.

Tip – Have a drink of water before you start tapping and again after you finish tapping.

EFT to clear your own blocks

You want to make sure that your energy is positive and that you are not putting any of your own limiting beliefs onto that person.

Before you start tapping, think about the person you want to help. Try not to think specifically of how you want to help, instead focus on creating positive energy for that person.

• Set up – Tapping the side of the hand – I’m tapping today to raise my vibrations and clear any limiting beliefs that I have so that I am able to radiate positive energy for others (or you can say the specific person’s name)
• Top of the head – I release any limiting beliefs that I hold about this person
• Forehead – I release any limiting beliefs that I hold about this situation
• Eyebrow – I clear any blocks that I hold
• Side of the eye – As I tap, I raise my vibrations
• Under the eye – As I tap I clear any blocks
• Under the nose – As I tap I allow positive energy to flow through me
• Under the mouth – I allow positive energy to flow around me
• Collarbone – I allow positive energy to flow out into the world
• Under the arm – I radiate positive energy
• Side of the hand – And others are able to feel that energy

Repeat this script several times. Don’t worry about repeating all of the statements after the first round, you may want to say them all again or you may want to just focus on a few that really resonate with you. It’s all fine.

Surrogate EFT Tapping for someone else

Surrogate tapping is where you specifically tap for someone else. Again, focus on the person. Really hold them in your mind.

This time you can be more specific but focus on a feeling rather than an outcome.

For example, I’m tapping to help Jenny release her anxiety, to feel happier and more confident

• Set up – Tapping the side of the hand – Form your own set-up. Starting with… I’m tapping to help… (add the person’s name), release these feelings of… and to feel more…

In this example, I will use focus on releasing anxiety and then tapping in feeling calm and confident. Keep your breathing nice and relaxed and take your time as you tap.

• Top of the head – Release anxiety
• Forehead – Release anxiety
• Eyebrow – Release anxiety
• Side of the eye – Release anxiety
• Under the eye – Release anxiety
• Under the nose – Release anxiety
• Under the mouth – Release anxiety
• Collarbone – Release anxiety
• Under the arm – Release anxiety
• Side of the hand – Release anxiety

Take a deep breath in and relax, repeat several times and then we can tap in the positive feelings still focusing on the person you want to help.

• Top of the head – Calm and confident
• Forehead – Calm and confident
• Eyebrow – Calm and confident
• Side of the eye – Calm and confident
• Under the eye – Calm and confident
• Under the nose – Calm and confident
• Under the mouth – Calm and confident
• Collarbone – Calm and confident
• Under the arm – Calm and confident
• Side of the hand – Calm and confident

This kind of tapping can be done with the other person present or not.

Blanket of love

I actually think this is my favourite way to help other people. I’ve used it so many times with wonderful results. It’s also powerful to help you feel positive about the situation.

In this exercise, you are simply sending love. The vibration of love is super high and incredibly powerful.

Imagine the person is in front of you. Really look at them and notice their features. Then imagine holding up a big blanket. It’s a white blanket that’s softly glowing. This blanket is filled with love.

As you hold the blanket, feel the love and then gently wrap it around the person you want to send love to. Hold this image for as long as you want and then release the blanket knowing that the person now has this loving energy.

Remember that the energy of love is incredibly powerful and this is helpful in any situation to add positive energy.

Visualize what you want for the person

Again, I want you to focus on the feeling rather than a specific thing. Think about what you want for this person and attach a feeling to it.

For example – If you’re friend is really struggling financially. If you don’t want this, what do you want for them? You could focus on feeling abundant, feeling wealthy, feeling rich…

If your friend is going through a divorce and really struggling, maybe focus on seeing your friend feeling happy, feeling loved, feeling valued (don’t focus on her in a new relationship).

Imagine seeing your friend and you sensing that they already have the feelings you want for them. Imagine them talking about how they’re feeling.

Visualize sending positive energy

See the person in your mind and just imagine sending positive energy to them. You can say, I’m sending positive energy to you.

You can imagine positive energy as a colour flowing to the person. You can even see the words positive energy flowing to the person and them accepting it.

When someone tells me they are hurting in some way, I will simply say “I’m sending you positive energy.” I’ll often end emails to my subscribers, friends, family with ‘I’m sending positive energy your way’.

This is so simple but you’re letting the Universe know exactly what you want.

A letter to the Universe

Write a letter to the Universe asking for support for the person you want to help. for example…

Dear Universe, I ask that you support my friend Jenny in the best way possible for her.

Thank you.

It’s that simple, you’ve let the universe know exactly what you want. You don’t need to be specific. When you’re too specific, you can create blocks when dealing with other people. This is simply because what you think is best for this person actually may not be.

Support for you

I hope you’ve got great value from this post. One thing I want to say is don’t worry about whether you’re doing the exercises right. If your focus is on the positives, you’re doing it right.

Remember that the very, very best thing you can do for other people, is to keep working on raising your vibrations (Feeling positive).

Here are some key posts that will really help you to use the law of attraction well in your own life.

• How To Use The Law Of Attraction
• Law of Attraction Key Points
• Law of attraction Top Tips with pdf download
• Create a Law of Attraction Lifestyle

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Wendy Tomlinson – Law of Attraction Practitioner – EFT Master Practitioner – Life Skills Coach – Specializing in helping create a positive mindset that supports you to feel your best, be your best and create a life yhou love.