What is a law of attraction lifestyle and why do you need one? I’m a law of attraction coach and I’m going to tell you how you can easily create a law of attraction lifestyle for yourself to help manifest the life you want
Did you know that the law of attraction is always working in all areas of your life? That’s every second of every day whether you understand it or not. There’s no ON/OFF switch. The law of attraction can only give you what you’re a match for wanted or not.
When you create a law of attraction lifestyle, you’ll consistently become more and more of a match for attracting the life you want. Make it a lifestyle rather than something you think about for a few minutes a day.
There are 5 things I encourage you to pay attention to. Your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, the things you say and the things you do. These are all signals to the universe about what you’re a match for.
You are constantly giving the universe messages about what you want to attract into your life. But sometimes the law of attraction can give you things you don’t want because that’s what you’re a match for.
The law of attraction responds to your
thoughts, feelings, beliefs, the things you say and the things you do
I know this seems crazy but I hope all will become clear in this post. And this is why I encourage you to start creating what I call a law of attraction lifestyle for yourself so that you’re deliberately making yourself a match for what you want.
This means that more and more you will become a match for the things you actually want and love in your life.
Below I have put together the key things that I believe will most help you to create a law of attraction lifestyle for yourself.
Creating a law of attraction lifestyle
helps to to become more and more of a match for the life you want
What you focus on matters
Focus on the things you want to attract from a place of really believing they are already on the way. A bit like when you book a holiday, you know it’s going to happen.
Also focus on the things in your life that you already like, want, love, enjoy… I like to really acknowledge these things and let the universe know. Make it a kind of game. “Ooh, I like this. Thanks Universe, I’ll have more of this please.” Be really playful and grateful.
When things show up in your life that you don’t want, or don’t like, ask this question “If I don’t want this, what do I want?” This will really help you to shift your focus to what you do want.
If I don’t want this
Coach Wendy
What do I want?
Put your focus on what you want
From a place of knowing it’s yours.
Thoughts
Your thoughts are incredibly powerful. They can make you feel really positive and support you or they can be really limiting and negative and block you from creating the life you want.
If you’re anything like me, and most other people, you’ll have all kinds of thoughts pop into your head throughout the day. This is completely normal. But we can deliberately fill our minds with positive messages. I like to use affirmations throughout the day.
I’ve found that these positive messages really help me to feel better, focus on what I want/like and if I do catch myself with a negative thought cycle going on, I can use affirmations to create a shift back to better-feeling thoughts.
Read my blog post: Aim for better-feeling thoughts.
Feelings
Your feelings are super important when it comes to the law of attraction. If you’re feeling great then you’re much more naturally able to attract more to feel great about, to attract the life you want. If you’re feeling down, angry… then you’re not only blocking the things you want but you’re more likely to attract things you don’t want.
Now, I do want to say that I am not one of those people who’s always happy and I certainly don’t feel amazing all the time and that’s okay, it’s natural to experience a whole range of emotions.
But what I want you to start doing is to pay attention to the way you feel throughout the day. Get into the habit of checking in with yourself and asking “How do I feel?”
More questions…
- How can I feel better? Always try to feel the best you can.
- What can I change? If you’re not feeling great, what can you do to change how you feel?
- Why do I feel this way? If you’re not feeling great, try to work out why. Sometimes it’s obvious and sometimes you’ll need to dig a little deeper.
Your power technique
EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques is fantastic for releasing low emotions and generally improving your energy flow which will help you to feel better. Check out my EFT Scripts and Ideas here on the blog.
Important: we all feel down, low, negative from time to time
I do want to just say, if you’re not feeling great right now as you read this, go easy on yourself.
Over the years I’ve had so many messages from people trying to deliberately use the law of attraction who get upset, angry, and frustrated with themselves because they do things like affirmations, they try to focus on what they want and then they find themselves feeling down (low, negative) and they understand that this is not helpful.
But the thing is… when you get frustrated, upset, angry with yourself, you are just making the problem worse. Go easy on yourself, we all experience low emotions, and I do. Be kind to yourself – Learn to love yourself and read my law of attraction to feel better about yourself post.
I feel strongly that some law of attraction advice is very unrealistic. I want you to think of the law of attraction as a really powerful helpful hand, not a magic wand.
Focus on how can I feel a bit better. You don’t have to jump from feeling really down to feeling on top of the world in one jump. Aim for a bit better, then a bit better.
Techniques to use AFFIRMATIONS, EFT, and focus on gratitude. Also, just do something you enjoy because so many of us don’t take this simple step. For me, if I’m feeling down, a nice soak in the bath works wonders.
I encourage you to read 30 ways to raise your vibrations and Happy vibes all the way today. These both focus on helping you to improve the way you feel.
RECOMMENDED READING: IS THE LAW OF ATTRACTION POSITIVE THINKING
Beliefs
We’re all collecting all kinds of beliefs as we go through life. Some will support you and help you achieve the things you want in life but some can seriously BLOCK you from creating the life you want.
Some of those limiting/negative/unhelpful beliefs can be really deep-rooted and sometimes you may not even be aware of them,
There’s a 3 step law of attraction process – Clarity, Raise your vibrations and allow. If you’re not allowing the law of attraction to work for you then you’re resisting it or blocking it.
You can use affirmations and self-talk to help shift old, limiting beliefs. For example, in your head, you might be saying, I can’t do this, people like me don’t do things like this… You can replace this thought with something like this…
– Okay, so I don’t know exactly what I’m doing right now but I can learn, I can ask for help from people who have done this before, I can learn from people who do know what they’re doing. This will help to shift that belief that says “I CAN’T.” to something better like “Hmm, maybe this is possible for me, maybe I can do this…” and eventually “Yes, I can totally do this!”
EFT – You can tap on limiting beliefs to release them and also to help build new positive beliefs. I’ve created a download to specifically help with this – Head over to my ETSY SHOP and check out the CLEARING LIMITING BELIEFS download.
Question your limiting beliefs
Also, if you are aware of a limiting belief, question it. For example, when we are kids we are often told not to speak to strangers.
Parents often tell children this to keep them safe. But as you get older, this belief could severely limit you if you don’t learn to change it so that you can interact socially, progress in your chosen career, build new relationships…
You can simply say… Is this true for me now? Is this belief serving me well now? In the stranger case, it is not true that we should not talk to all strangers.
Most of the time it’s a positive thing. There are of course some times when you do need to be cautious of people you don’t know, such as a stranger down a dark alley – Hmm, not a great idea to chat to them but a stranger at a social gathering or business event, sure it’s a really positive thing to chat to new people.
Try to pay attention to your beliefs and keep asking, is this belief serving me well today? Will this belief help me to create the life I want?
RECOMMENDED READING: STOP BEING CRITICAL OF YOURSELF AND OTHERS
The things you say
Pay attention to the things you say to yourself and to other people. What I’ve found over the years is that when people are trying to create a law of attraction lifestyle for themselves and keep positive, they do a great job when they’re on their own but will then get into negative conversations with others.
I’ve struggled with my weight for many years and I use the law of attraction to help me improve my health and help with my weight.
I even created a 30-day weight loss challenge focusing on mindset. But I still find that when someone is complaining about how hard it is to lose weight, I find myself joining in with the conversation (if I’m not careful).
A great tip for when people are talking about things that don’t support you is to say to yourself “That’s not my truth”
Recommended reading: How to deal with negative people
The things you do
Are your actions a match for the life you want to create?
Now, if you listen to some law of attraction advice, the story goes like this, Decide who you want to be, visualize it and it will become your reality.
Well, I’m sorry but that’s just not how it happens. You have to take action. The UNIVERSE loves action. The law of attraction responds to the action you take.
Example. If you say that you want a successful, 6-figure business but you rarely put time into building you’re business then you’re NOT a match for attracting this.
Remember, think of the law of attraction as a really powerful helping hand rather than a magic wand.
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Check-in throughout the day
Okay, so now you know that the law of attraction responds to your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, the things you say and the things you do. You also know that you want to focus on what you want from a place of knowing it will show up for you.
With that information, my best advice for you is to pay attention and be aware of your thoughts, etc throughout the day and if anything feels a bit low, or negative – SPOT IT AND SWAP IT for something BETTER FEELING. Here’s a fantastic blog post to read – Aim for better-feeling thoughts.
Whenever you notice an unhelpful thought swap if for a better-feeling thought.
Understand it’s a journey
This is a journey, it still is for me and I qualified as a law of attraction practitioner back in 2011. I’d already been learning about the law of attraction for over 2 years when I qualified.
I’ve taught many people across the world about how to use the law of attraction. You’d think I’d be able to manifest anything I want in seconds. Well, no. Maybe some people can but that’s not the case for me or most other people. It’s a journey for most people.
I definitely believe that understanding and learning how to work with the law of attraction is life-changing but I also believe you need to do the work yourself too.
I’ve definitely had things that I’ve manifested really quickly. In this case, I’ve had absolutely no resistance to it showing up.
Am I a millionaire? NOPE. I had some major money blocks on so many levels, I am constantly working on them. Some I’ve removed, but some still cause me problems. For example, whenever I get a significant income rise, my limiting beliefs kick in, I start to self-sabotage and I need to release them and learn how to allow this new level without fear.
If you have money blocks and want to get started releasing them and start building a positive money mindset, check out my EFT Money Mindset Guide on ETSY.
Perfection is not needed – Focus on gratitude for what you already have, enjoy life and pay attention to all the wonderful things that show up.
Be a work in progress
I’m a work in progress and that’s very much how I want to see your law of attraction journey. Enjoy the process.
What I can say to you is that I went from a life I really wasn’t happy with, I wasn’t happy with myself, I didn’t even like myself to creating a wonderful life that I genuinely love.
It’s not perfect and that’s okay but I can go to bed each night happy that I love myself and I really love my life. That for me is a huge law of attraction success.
Perfect is not needed, instead, focus on really enjoying the journey. This is the very best way for you to really be able to use the law of attraction effectively.
Do things you enjoy, have fun, love, laugh… and do it now. Don’t wait for some milestone in your life, do it now.
Your law of attraction lifestyle will help you to become more and more of a match for the life you want.
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Law of Attraction Lifestyle Checklist
Okay, let’s do a quick recap of how you can create a law of attraction lifestyle so that you can be more and more of a match for the life you want.
- What you focus on matters – Put your focus on the wonderful things you already have in your life and what you want to attract into your life
- The law of attraction responds to your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, the things you say and the things you do – Pay attention to these things
- Use spot it and swap it with negative/low feelings, thoughts… – Swap for a BETTER FEELING
- Check-in regularly throughout the day – How are you feeling?
- Understand that this is a journey. Perfect is not needed. Enjoy the journey
- Have fun and enjoy life NOW
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Coach Wendy – Wendy Tomlinson Coaching
Lincolnshire, UK
Mindset Coach
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